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2 Iyar 5770

April 16th, 2010

 

 

To My Dear Students,

Supreme Court Justice Stevens announced that he will soon retire.  One of his former law clerks reminisced that one of Justice Stevens' trademarks is the courteousness with which he treats the lawyers who appear before the Supreme Court.  When he wants to elicit information or make a point during oral argument, he typically interrupts the lawyer with the gentle preface, "May I ask you a question?"

During William Rehnquist's tenure as Chief Justice, a lawyer was arguing in the court for the first time.  When asked a question by Justice Anthony Kennedy, the nervous lawyer started her response with, "Well, Judge."  Chief Justice Rehnquist interrupted her.  "That's Justice Kennedy," he said.

Shaken, the lawyer continued.  A few minutes later, she responded to Justice David Souter by saying, "Yes, Judge."  Chief Justice Rehnquist corrected her again:  "That's Justice Souter."

A couple of minutes later, she called Chief Justice Rehnquist himself a judge.  The Chief Justice leaned forward, his deep voice now at its sternest, to say, "Counsel is admonished that this court is composed of justices, not judges."

Before the lawyer could say anything, Justice Stevens interjected:  "It's O.K., counsel.  The Constitution makes the same mistake."

In pointing out that the Constitution itself refers to Supreme Court justices as "judges," Stevens was illustrating a great Jewish mitzvah called lo l'vayesh, "Do not embarrass a person."  The Jewish tradition is exquisitely sensitive to sparing the feelings of others, to not cause shame, embarrassment, or humiliation.  It teaches that we must go to great lengths to avoid the sin of halbanat panim, "whitening the face," causing someone to blanch by public embarrassment.  The etiquette of speech is one of Judaism's foremost concerns.  As Justice Stevens (or Judge Stevens according to the Constitution), sought to spare that attorney embarrassment, so we should be quite mindful to ensure that our words protect the feelings of others.

Shabbat Shalom,

Your Rabbi