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Be a part of the TBY Family

Looking to Try Bat Yahm? 

If you are new to Orange County or just ready to be part of a Temple community, we thank you for this opportunity to tell you about Temple Bat Yahm. TBY is a Reform synagogue with over 600 families that honors the strength of Jewish traditions – all while providing a warm community for our members. Through education, spiritual, and social programs, including life-cycle events, TBY strives to connect families and individuals to one another, creating a caring Temple family.

Finding a Temple that fits you and your family can be a challenging endeavor, and to make this process easy for you, we are available to answer any questions you may have about being a member.  If you have questions about Temple membership, please email Sue Penn, Director of Membership & Concierge Services to make an appointment.

Try us Out!

What better way of seeing if Temple Bat Yahm is for you than experiencing our services and programs.  Please check out our calendar for upcoming events and worship services.  Most events and all worship services (except for High Holy Days) are open to the public.

Everyone is welcome!

Temple Bat Yahm is committed to being a meaningful spiritual home for all our members, regardless of background, age, stage of life, gender or sexual orientation. Through our plethora of programming and events, everyone can find their place here at Temple Bat Yahm.

Here are some frequently asked questions about being an Interfaith Family and/or LGBTQIA+ members here at TBY:

  • Is my non-Jewish spouse expected to convert upon joining Temple Bat Yahm?
    Non-Jewish spouses and other family members are welcomed with open arms at TBY. It is a simple truth that without the support of non-Jewish family members it would be difficult, if not impossible, for us to have the thriving community we currently enjoy. While non-Jewish family members are welcome to participate in almost every way that a Jew may, there are some roles and responsibilities that can only be performed by members of the Jewish faith. Examples include being a member of the Board of Trustees at the Temple and accepting certain honors during worship services. Conversion to Judaism is a very personal decision and, although we are delighted to support anyone on that journey, it is not a prerequisite to becoming a valued person in our community.

  • Will my non-Jewish spouse be allowed to participate in our children’s life cycle events?
    Absolutely! We regularly invite non-Jewish parents to participate in the life cycle events of their Jewish children. After all, non-Jewish parents are often the key to their children’s participation in this life celebration and it is only fitting for them to be included and recognized for their support for Jewish life.

  • Will non- Jewish grandparents be included in B'nai Mitzvah?
    Similarly, non-Jewish grandparents can participate in many ways in the celebration of their grandchildren’s life cycle events. We hope that the experience will ensure that they know what it is to experience naches (pride in the achievements of one’s Jewish children or grandchildren)!

  • Are there any programs available at Temple Bat Yahm to increase my non-Jewish spouse’s comfort level?
    From the array of adult learning offerings to the regular worship services we hold at Temple Bat Yahm there is a wealth of opportunity for non-Jews to gain familiarity and to feel comfortable in our community. You are welcome to participate in all of our learning opportunities. From time to time we hold sessions more specifically geared towards non-Jews or Jewish adults who have not had much formal Jewish experience growing up.  A particularly good place to start is Coffee Talk on Sunday mornings during JCAL (our Sunday school). During these sessions we cover a wide range of topics including the nature of Torah, Jewish belief, practice and raising Jewish children. No question is off limits! You are also encouraged to make an appointment with one of our rabbis to discuss your own particular interests and to tailor a learning program just for you.

  • Will a Rabbi of Temple Bat Yahm marry us if we are Interfaith and/or members of the LGBTQIA+ community?
    A wedding is one of the most exciting transitions in life and it is a celebration not only for the couple, but also for their families, friends and community. It is the beginning of what we all pray will be a lifetime of loving marriage. Mazel Tov on your momentous decision!

    If you are planning to get married we encourage you to make an appointment to meet with Rabbi Zylberman as early as possible to find out how we can best help you in your exciting new journey. We are here to support all those who wish to explore building a bayit b’yisrael, a Jewish household. Each couple will be treated with great sensitivity keeping in mind their own individual circumstances and dreams for their future together. Please email Debbe Katz, Clergy Administrator, to schedule a time to talk.

  • Do you recommend any websites or literature to prepare our family before getting involved at TBY?
    The best advice is just to jump right in! For those wishing to explore further reading we would recommend the following resources:

The website for the Union for Reform Judaism, which represents Reform Jewish communities throughout North America 
A non-denominational resource for Jewish learning for all levels of inquiry 
A source for those who are Reform, from a different stream of Judaism, “just Jewish,” interested in conversion, or merely curious to learn more about the customs and traditions that TBY follows

“Living Judaism”, by Rabbi Wayne Dosick
“To Life”, by Harold Kushner 

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